Why My Fiancé is the Best Friend I'll Ever Have
As a young lover, I would have never been the type of girl to call her boyfriend her "best friend." I was the type of girl that had friends... and had a boyfriend. They were definitely two separate entities, never to be in on the same intel.
As I grew older and my 18-year-old boyfriend turned in to my fiance, I realized that he actually knew me better than anyone in my life. Almost ten years of being together, we have shared the most intimate moments with each other. We have laughed, and cried, and had crazy, drunken fights. We bring out the best and the worst in each other, which many people would frown upon. But I think it makes us stronger. I know that he knows the worst parts about me, but he still loves me unconditionally. I know that he doesn't judge me and that instead, he loves me and builds me up. I know that he cares enough about our relationship to fight for it, and so do I.
Best Friends don't talk badly about you behind your back or make you feel bad for your past. Best Friends don't let you handle stress alone or make you feel like there's no one on your team. Best Friends don't get frustrated when you unload your bad day on them.
Best Friends love you for who you are- flaws and all- and build up your confidence so you shine brightly. Best Friends are there for you no matter what. You can write them down as an emergency contact without second guessing whether or not they would actually show up. Best Friends are honest and tell you things that you don't always want to hear. Best Friends always have your best interests in mind. You're always excited to see your Best Friend and they always respect your views, even if they're different from their own. Best Friends love you.
I have learned that in my adult relationship, my lover and my best friend are the same person. I'm lucky to have someone that I respect and love so much beside me on this ride called life.